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The Forgotten Victim
© Alison Henderson
‘That’s her there! her hubby’s inside!’
‘How can she stand by him?’ a neighbor cried!
‘I’d throw away the lock and key!’
‘That husband of hers should never be free!’
‘That woman can do so much better than him!’
‘I’d throw all his letters away in the bin!’
‘Just what can he offer now he’s locked away?’
‘A complete waste of space!’ she shouted that day.
‘That’s the one there! her boyfriend’s inside!
‘He’s scum of the earth!’ a neighbors implied!
‘If I was her, well I’d meet someone else!
‘Not wasting my life to be left on the shelf!
‘That woman’s been left to cope with the shame’
‘It was all over the papers! and gave out his name’
‘He’s useless! A criminal! Bring back the rope!’
‘He’ll do it again! for him there’s no hope!’
That man you condemn has a child and a wife
A Mum and a Dad who has given him life!
What would you do if this happened to yours?
Deny all your love and close all the doors?
Do you honestly think I’d sink to a level
And just turn my back and deem him a devil?
Yes! He’s done wrong and is serving his time
And No! I do not agree with his crime.
‘That woman’ you point at, yes it is me
I was born with a name, as I’m human you see!
I’m innocent! just incase you’ve forgot
And love him whether you like it or not!
I’ve had the abuse, the comments and more
It’s nothing I haven’t heard all before
I mean no offense when I say this to you
I’m a victim as well- A forgotten one too.
Read more prison poetry here.
This is a trailer for an upcoming documentary film that explores the effects of having incarcerated parents on their children.
There are two types of barriers that can hinder an ex-con’s successful reentry into society. There are those created by public policy and public attitude, and society’s lack of options for a reentering individual. However, in many cases, there are also those barriers that the person reentering creates for himself by lacking a plan, the right attitude, or the personal commitment to see it through. “How to Do Good After Prison” is a practical advice manual that provides insight and guidance to help ex-prisoners face the challenges and succeed after prison.
If you would like more information on this how-to book, please click here.
This book by Megan Comfort profiles the lives of women who have husbands, fiancees, and boyfriends behind bars. The author spent time with women who were visiting men at San Quentin State Prison.
“Tangling with the prison’s intrusive scrutiny and rigid rules turns these women into ‘quasi-inmates,’ eroding the boundary between home and prison and altering their sense of intimacy, love, and justice. Yet Comfort also finds that with social welfare weakened, prisons are the most powerful public institutions available to women struggling to overcome untreated social ills and sustain relationships with marginalized men. As a result, they express great ambivalence about the prison and the control it exerts over their daily lives.” (The University of Chicago Press)
Check out the book here
Rapper DMX is interviewed from prison. He discusses how much he misses his family (especially his children), and the struggle he goes through in being a prisoner. He says the hardest part about prison is being away from his baby.
The latest episode of Family Life Behind Bars on Blog Talk Radio deals with the difficulties of reintegrating into family life after coming out of a prison sentence. This is a complicated issue and Dr. Harland Kessaris approaches it with thoughtfulness and care. It is worth listening this podcast.
Here is another episode from Blog Talk Radio’s Family Life Behind Bars show. This episode provides important financial advice.
Bedford Hills Correctional Facility has a children’s center, set up so women prisoners can interact with their children. This episode of Blog Talk Radio’s Family Life Behind Bars station interviews Bobby Blanchard, the Director of The Children’s Center at the Bedford Hills Correctional Facility.
Growing up, was always as if I was the only one with family in jail. I always felt like I was the only one with a parent in jail, then one day my cousin’s father went to jail, but our experiences were totally different.
I know I am different having to grow up with a father behind bars. If he could have been there (home), the push and drive that he would give me over the phone and through mail, I know would have been enforced much harder. The hard head that I had, would have been easily softened up. I could have opened doors for others. Not like it is too late, I am just saying…….
Listen to the another compelling radio show hosted by blog talk radio’s Family Life Behind Bars station. This show interviews Terrance Stevens, director of In Arms Reach, Inc. a non profit community based art, music, counseling and academic mentoring program for children of prisoners.